Day 22: What do you think is important in keeping a BDSM relationship healthy? How does it differ from a vanilla relationship?

I might get some flack for this from other kinky folks, but I honestly don't think vanilla relationships are all that different from kinky ones. The same basic underlying principle applies: communicate. Communicate until you're blue in the face, until you're sure your partner understands you, and then communicate some more. The same goes for monogamous and polyamorous folks, and anyone in between. If you have metamors (the lover of your lover), guess what? Communicate with them, too. If everyone simply talked to their partner more, and really listened to them too, the world would have a lot more happier couples.