Day 7: What’s your favorite toy?

I've been eagerly awaiting this question, because when it comes to toys, I absolutely do play favorites. My Magic Wand is the best thing to ever happen to my sex life. I use it solo, with partners, and I've even leant it to a few (close) friends to try out over their panties. I know the intensity of a Magic Wand isn't for everyone, but for me, it's the surest way to reach orgasm, and an amazing addition to every kind of sex.

Day 6: Describe your weirdest/most interesting sexual fantasy

I think I've lost any objective ability to discern what's "weird" in the realm of kink. Is power play weird? Is it weird to want to give a partner a lap dance? I don't really know anymore.

The strangest one that comes to mind is a fantasy I've been toying with for quite some time. I'm kneeling at the feet of my dominant, and he orders me to lie with my cheek pressed against the cool floor. He takes a well-shined leather shoe and presses it into my face, hard enough to leave tiny indentations on my cheek, and tells me how worthless I am. He says he'll let me up if I kiss his shoe, and I have no choice but to obey.

Not exactly strange by kinky standards, but maybe a little odd? You tell me!

Day 5: What was your first kinky sexual experience?

Okay, I need to warn you, this is going to sound like something I made up for a good erotic story, but I swear on my Hitachi, this is entirely factual.

My first kinky experience was at a party with eight or so other kinky ladies, where we baked cupcakes, had a few jello shots, and hit each other with various kinky implements. I tried out my first rope harness, learned to wield a crop, and discovered just how hot a bound woman at my feet could make me.

All in all, not a bad first time.

Day 4: Any early experiences that, in retrospect, hint at your kinks?

Oh, yes. The time I fashioned handcuffs out of printer paper and scotch tape comes to mind. Or perhaps all those sessions of "Houdini," in which a friend would tie me up, and I'd try to wriggle free. I secretly hoped that I wouldn't be able to break out of the binds, but alas, her ties weren't exactly Shibari status.

In the realm of less-subtle hints at kinky tendencies, I used to tie myself to the bedpost with a sock (yes, a sock, not a scarf. Perhaps I wasn't the brightest of kids) and fantasize about a cruel, powerful man who'd take me captive. How's that for a hint?

Day 3: How did you discover you were kinky?

I've always known I had dark, unspeakable desires. Long before I knew they were sexual, I recognized that I wanted to be captured, subdued, even hurt. I was terrified of what these thoughts might mean, and it wasn't until college that I fell in with a sexually open crowd, and learned that there was a whole community of folks who had these desires. What's more, I could potentially meet someone and explore these scenarios, make them real. The first time I spoke with another submissive lady, I felt more alive—more free—than I had ever felt. It was golden, and scary, and wonderful. She told me all about the red flags to watch for, and how to hunt down my first dom. Through her, I discovered the kink scene in my city, and met people I keep in touch with even now.

I'm forever grateful to the woman who showed me the ropes without ever laying a finger on me. There's something unique and special about the bond between two submissive women, and I feel lucky to have discovered it so early.

Day 2: List Your Kinks

Oh dear. I'm afraid it would be much easier to list what I'm NOT into, but I'll give it the old college try. Ahem.

• Schoolgirl
• Choking
• Hair Pulling
• Spanking
• Restraints
• Rope, Rope, Rope
• Collars
• Biting
• Roleplay
• Talking Dirty
• Talking Really, Really Dirty
• Humiliation
• Public Play
• Voyeurism and Exhibitionism
• Erotic Stories (but you knew that)
• Much, Much More

Day 1: Dom, Sub, Switch?

Let's play a game of 20 30 questions, shall we? I've always wanted to try out the 30 Days of Kink writing prompts, and now's my chance! I'll be tackling one kinkalicious question a day for the next month, on my personal escapades into the delightful world of BDSM.

Dom, sub, switch?  What parts of BDSM interest you?  Give us an interesting in-depth definition of what that means to you. Basically define your kinky self for us.

I'm a sub-leaning switch, though I certainly do enjoy a good topping session. It really depends on the partner. There are people I couldn't imagine ever topping, and people whom I could never imagine topping me. I do tend to be more toppy with women, for whatever reason, but I'm definitely open to a hot femdom-style partnership (ladies?).

For me, it's all about the power. It's submission that I crave, being forced to think of absolutely nothing but the person holding the leash (or whip, or flogger...). My kinkiness stems from a desire I've had since I was little, to be entirely in the power of another. The switchy part of my kink entered much later, and is essentially the whipped cream on top of a subby sundae.

An Introduction

Yours truly. Yes, this is how I always read.

Why hello. I'm new around here, and thought I should perhaps introduce myself before sharing every one of my innermost fantasies, and letting you into my rather kinky mind.

All you need to know for now is that I'm a 20-something bookworm with a fetish for learning. Also chocolate. And, well, actual fetishes.

This is my space to write down my fantasies, share little teasers from my published smut, and play the exhibitionist. Thank you for playing along.

<3 Inara